Its almost been a year and so much has happened...
Joseph and I got married on November 13th, 2010.
Mary got the girls back,
and then moved herself and them to vegas.
We are going to mediation on the 18th of this month,
and then court a week from then.
We are asking to have the girls over the summer,
every other christmas,
and spring break.
We are hoping we get it.
Joseph has went back to college with Devry,
Computer Engineering Technology.
I have started my own business,
www.makesnbakes.weebly.com
www.facebook.com/makesnbakes
Its a custom crafts and sweets.
I have decided to take up my blogging again,
and make more of an attempt to stay current.
Please stay tuned..
MJ
Wednesday, April 6, 2011
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
New Placement...
So...
The ex wife.
She could not pay the gas bill,
so the gas got turned off.
Leaving her,
AND OUR GIRLS,
with no heat or hot water.
THEN,
She leaves and goes to LA for
a couple of days,
leaving the girls at their apartment,
without ANY adult supervision.
She did not notify ANYONE that she
was leaving.
I found out when I woke up one morning,
from a long night before,
with messages on my phone from their school.
Trinity was sick,
it was noon by the time I got a hold of the office,
she had been in there since 9am.
I rushed down and picked her up
and brought her back home with me.
She told me that her mom was in LA with her boyfriend,
and that Brittany (the oldest, age 12)
was left in charge.
FACT: IN THE STATE OF CALIFORNIA AGE 12 IS THE LEGAL AGE TO STAY HOME ALONE, IT ISNT UNTIL FIFTEEN THAT A CHILD IS ALLOWED TO BE LEFT IN CHARGE OF OTHER CHILDREN (BABYSITTING), BECAUSE IT IS CONSIDERED A JOB. THE LEGAL EMPLOYMENT AGE IS 15.
The ex wife left a 12 year old girl in charge of:
A 10 year old girl,
8 year old girl,
and 5 year old girl.
an apartment.
cooking with no gas.
&&
At an apartment
where her abusive ex has been known to come
and kick in the door being violent.
Before we could do anything We found out
that Alexis (second oldest, 10)
reported her mother to the office.
Child Services then investigated
and the kids were taken away and put with their
grandmother (ex wifes mother).
For the record we are still unable to get custody
because the ex wife took his custody and visitations
away while he was in jail about 6 years ago.
We are currently working with the grandma and
the courts to get everything back.
This is a great thing.
The ex wife.
She could not pay the gas bill,
so the gas got turned off.
Leaving her,
AND OUR GIRLS,
with no heat or hot water.
THEN,
She leaves and goes to LA for
a couple of days,
leaving the girls at their apartment,
without ANY adult supervision.
She did not notify ANYONE that she
was leaving.
I found out when I woke up one morning,
from a long night before,
with messages on my phone from their school.
Trinity was sick,
it was noon by the time I got a hold of the office,
she had been in there since 9am.
I rushed down and picked her up
and brought her back home with me.
She told me that her mom was in LA with her boyfriend,
and that Brittany (the oldest, age 12)
was left in charge.
FACT: IN THE STATE OF CALIFORNIA AGE 12 IS THE LEGAL AGE TO STAY HOME ALONE, IT ISNT UNTIL FIFTEEN THAT A CHILD IS ALLOWED TO BE LEFT IN CHARGE OF OTHER CHILDREN (BABYSITTING), BECAUSE IT IS CONSIDERED A JOB. THE LEGAL EMPLOYMENT AGE IS 15.
The ex wife left a 12 year old girl in charge of:
A 10 year old girl,
8 year old girl,
and 5 year old girl.
an apartment.
cooking with no gas.
&&
At an apartment
where her abusive ex has been known to come
and kick in the door being violent.
Before we could do anything We found out
that Alexis (second oldest, 10)
reported her mother to the office.
Child Services then investigated
and the kids were taken away and put with their
grandmother (ex wifes mother).
For the record we are still unable to get custody
because the ex wife took his custody and visitations
away while he was in jail about 6 years ago.
We are currently working with the grandma and
the courts to get everything back.
This is a great thing.
Mothers Day 2010
Mothers Day 2010,
was unlike anything I could
have ever hoped for.
I got to pick up the girls that morning,
and spend the entire day with them...
ON MOTHERS DAY.
The ex wife did not want them,
instead she had plans with friends.
I took them over to my moms house
where we got to eat lunch.
Chicken and salads. mmmmm.
My girls looked so cute lined up
on my mothers couch,
it really touched me.
Everyone has been telling me since I
got with Joseph that THEY are lucky to have me,
but on Mothers Day this year,
I realized how lucky I AM to have them.
Their laughs and giggles completely
made my entire mothers day.
Of course my mother and grandma spoiled them
with candy and goodies. :)
It was a really terrific day.
The only thing that could have made it better,
would have been if Joseph didnt have to work,
and could have been there with us...
Either way,
Mothers Day was amazing.
&&
I realized exactly HOW DEEP
my love for them is,
and I wouldnt have it any other way.
Dear Girls:
I am your step mother, your fathers wife. If that is all I ever am to you, that is fine. You have a mother and I would never try and take her place, But you should know, that you are my daughters now too, you are my reasons for waking up in the morning and without you in my life, it would empty. Your smiles make my day, your hugs and kisses are beyond anything ive ever felt. My love for you runs forever, and I will always be here for you. I love your father, and I love you.
Always,
Your Proud Step Mother
was unlike anything I could
have ever hoped for.
I got to pick up the girls that morning,
and spend the entire day with them...
ON MOTHERS DAY.
The ex wife did not want them,
instead she had plans with friends.
I took them over to my moms house
where we got to eat lunch.
Chicken and salads. mmmmm.
My girls looked so cute lined up
on my mothers couch,
it really touched me.
Everyone has been telling me since I
got with Joseph that THEY are lucky to have me,
but on Mothers Day this year,
I realized how lucky I AM to have them.
Their laughs and giggles completely
made my entire mothers day.
Of course my mother and grandma spoiled them
with candy and goodies. :)
It was a really terrific day.
The only thing that could have made it better,
would have been if Joseph didnt have to work,
and could have been there with us...
Either way,
Mothers Day was amazing.
&&
I realized exactly HOW DEEP
my love for them is,
and I wouldnt have it any other way.
Dear Girls:
I am your step mother, your fathers wife. If that is all I ever am to you, that is fine. You have a mother and I would never try and take her place, But you should know, that you are my daughters now too, you are my reasons for waking up in the morning and without you in my life, it would empty. Your smiles make my day, your hugs and kisses are beyond anything ive ever felt. My love for you runs forever, and I will always be here for you. I love your father, and I love you.
Always,
Your Proud Step Mother
Updating...
It has been quite a while since I have been on,
about a month or so and SO much has happened.
I have experienced some really bad lows,
and enjoyed some of the best moments.
I am now finding myself with a little time today
to be able to update my blog, so bare with me please...
It is going to come in sections, that way I can separate
things by occurance. I am hoping to be able to be on
here more from now on, at least once a week.
In short,
I am still in a loving relationship with Joseph,
and the girls are still my entire world.
I am the PROUDEST step mom,
and nobody can tell me different.
Thank you,
Megan
about a month or so and SO much has happened.
I have experienced some really bad lows,
and enjoyed some of the best moments.
I am now finding myself with a little time today
to be able to update my blog, so bare with me please...
It is going to come in sections, that way I can separate
things by occurance. I am hoping to be able to be on
here more from now on, at least once a week.
In short,
I am still in a loving relationship with Joseph,
and the girls are still my entire world.
I am the PROUDEST step mom,
and nobody can tell me different.
Thank you,
Megan
Saturday, June 19, 2010
Step Parent
For those of you who dont know,
I am a writer, working on getting published.
I write short stories, self help, spiritual,
and poetry writings.
When the girls were placed in their grandmothers
custody, there was a three week waiting period
before we were able to see them again.
This was THE hardest thing that I have ever
gone through as their step mom.
Not knowing how things were going,
or how they were feeling,
being unable to hug them or play with them,
and having to completely trust someone
who I had never met, their grandmother or not,
it was a really difficult time,
when joseph and I feld alone
and helpless as parents,
this is a little something i wrote at the time
to describe how i felt.
By Megan E Johnson
Dont you know I feel the pain,
Im not the mother but it feels the same,
no word, no call, no communication
its not just your kids this world is raising
time and time we try and try
night after night I cry and cry
i love them as if they were my own,
you want me to leave, i refuse, i wont.
they love me, they need me, they want me too,
in the end that doesnt mean they dont love you.
Each day i miss them more and more
every day I pray till my tounge is sore
to bring them back into our lives,
i am a mother too, their fathers wife.
I am a writer, working on getting published.
I write short stories, self help, spiritual,
and poetry writings.
When the girls were placed in their grandmothers
custody, there was a three week waiting period
before we were able to see them again.
This was THE hardest thing that I have ever
gone through as their step mom.
Not knowing how things were going,
or how they were feeling,
being unable to hug them or play with them,
and having to completely trust someone
who I had never met, their grandmother or not,
it was a really difficult time,
when joseph and I feld alone
and helpless as parents,
this is a little something i wrote at the time
to describe how i felt.
By Megan E Johnson
Dont you know I feel the pain,
Im not the mother but it feels the same,
no word, no call, no communication
its not just your kids this world is raising
time and time we try and try
night after night I cry and cry
i love them as if they were my own,
you want me to leave, i refuse, i wont.
they love me, they need me, they want me too,
in the end that doesnt mean they dont love you.
Each day i miss them more and more
every day I pray till my tounge is sore
to bring them back into our lives,
i am a mother too, their fathers wife.
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
Parenting comes with Pain...
It is amazing to me,
how one person...
can change how you feel
in an instant.
sometimes that feeling can be amazing,
like when you kiss your kids goodnight,
or recieve flowers from your husband...
other times it creates a pain inside you,
a pain that is unexplainable...
That is where I am at.
Pain.
It has been a while since I have written,
and quite a bit has happened....
One kid was at school sick and nobody was able to be reached,
I recieved the phone call at 12:30pm...
She had been sick in the office since 9am.
They said they couldnt find anyone to pick her up,
so I went.
I picked her up and asked her where her mom was,
thinking I could take her home instead of bussing
a sick kid around with me.
She told me that her mother was in LA,
for TWO DAYS.
Their gas was TURNED OFF,
and her 12 year old sister was left responsible
for her three younger sisters and the apartment.
Joey and I called the school and got the CPS number,
however we did not get the chance to call them.
We found the court documents online and found out
that he has no custody and suspended visitation...
It was right about then that the pain really started to hit.
We went to pick up the two younger kids from school,
so that they werent at home alone, they could stay with us.
Their Mothers mother beat us to the punch and was already there.
We took our sick kid home with us, and waited.
We eventually took her to the "babysitters" house,
where her sisters were as well.
The next morning I recieved a call from my mother in law.
She said that Birth Mom called her crying,
the girls had been taken away by CPS and were with their grandma.
As angry as we were with BM, it was a sigh of relief.
However, the weeks to follow have been torture to me.
I never knew how much I could love someone,
until those girls and their dad came in and stole my heart.
Everyday that I am unable to talk to them, or see them...
my heart breaks a little more.
Part of me feels rediculous,
but I can not help it.
They mean the world to me,
and without them,
I am miserable.
I am happy that they are with their grandma,
and being taken care of...
But it hurts that I dont get to see them like I was.
The stress has put a strain on Joey and I,
we see the stress and are able to work through it,
but its not in the least bit easy.
how one person...
can change how you feel
in an instant.
sometimes that feeling can be amazing,
like when you kiss your kids goodnight,
or recieve flowers from your husband...
other times it creates a pain inside you,
a pain that is unexplainable...
That is where I am at.
Pain.
It has been a while since I have written,
and quite a bit has happened....
One kid was at school sick and nobody was able to be reached,
I recieved the phone call at 12:30pm...
She had been sick in the office since 9am.
They said they couldnt find anyone to pick her up,
so I went.
I picked her up and asked her where her mom was,
thinking I could take her home instead of bussing
a sick kid around with me.
She told me that her mother was in LA,
for TWO DAYS.
Their gas was TURNED OFF,
and her 12 year old sister was left responsible
for her three younger sisters and the apartment.
Joey and I called the school and got the CPS number,
however we did not get the chance to call them.
We found the court documents online and found out
that he has no custody and suspended visitation...
It was right about then that the pain really started to hit.
We went to pick up the two younger kids from school,
so that they werent at home alone, they could stay with us.
Their Mothers mother beat us to the punch and was already there.
We took our sick kid home with us, and waited.
We eventually took her to the "babysitters" house,
where her sisters were as well.
The next morning I recieved a call from my mother in law.
She said that Birth Mom called her crying,
the girls had been taken away by CPS and were with their grandma.
As angry as we were with BM, it was a sigh of relief.
However, the weeks to follow have been torture to me.
I never knew how much I could love someone,
until those girls and their dad came in and stole my heart.
Everyday that I am unable to talk to them, or see them...
my heart breaks a little more.
Part of me feels rediculous,
but I can not help it.
They mean the world to me,
and without them,
I am miserable.
I am happy that they are with their grandma,
and being taken care of...
But it hurts that I dont get to see them like I was.
The stress has put a strain on Joey and I,
we see the stress and are able to work through it,
but its not in the least bit easy.
Tuesday, May 4, 2010
Love knows no boundaries...
Joseph and I have decided to spread the news...
We told his mother that we are getting married,
and that a July wedding is being planned.
She took it well,
and I am extremely lucky to have such
an amazing mother in law.
Our wedding is going to be awesome.
less than 20 people, more like 15 max.
in the forest right near a lake.
a wiccan handfasting.
<3
there is still so much to plan out,
I will make a wedding page tab at the top to
keep everyone posted.
Much Love.
The Johnsons<3
We told his mother that we are getting married,
and that a July wedding is being planned.
She took it well,
and I am extremely lucky to have such
an amazing mother in law.
Our wedding is going to be awesome.
less than 20 people, more like 15 max.
in the forest right near a lake.
a wiccan handfasting.
<3
there is still so much to plan out,
I will make a wedding page tab at the top to
keep everyone posted.
Much Love.
The Johnsons<3
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